I just thought I'd share a few great tips with you on marriage! And I happen to know these work! Enjoy!
1. Don't join in with other women on husband-bashing. Talk about yours like he's a king! Not only do you portray yourself as a lady when speaking well of the man you love, it also makes other women jealous and should make them feel a little stupid for being ungrateful!
2. I "just HAVE" to get this off my chest! What is the BIG DEAL about the toilet seat being left up? You know, this is one of the most common complaints among women-almost a staple in conversation when male-bashing. It got me to thinking, and I cannot remember a time I have ever been bothered by a toilet seat-I couldn't even tell you if ours regularly get left up or put back down!
3. Say Please, and mean it!
4. Say Thank you, and mean it!
5. It's okay to give in. Things don't always have to be my way. What's more important-winning my way, or having a winning marriage?
6. You are not married to a control freak if he likes you to wear certain colors or grow your hair long. It doesn't mean you've lost your independence, no matter how our culture tries to convince women that it does. It just shows your hubby that you like to please him! And what's wrong with that?
And my final tip is coming up. I'd just like to share a few things first. Hopefully you've noticed in any of my other posts about my husband that when I "complain" about him, it is all in good fun. Dan is one of the best people I've ever met, and he's a good, kind husband. He is rarely ever ruffled, and has a great sense of humor. We respect each other, and neither of us are into spouse bashing that is intentionally hurtful. My blog posts about Dan are humorous to him as well.
I am blessed with a good marriage, and a home that is peaceful and a comfortable place to be. There is very little (almost none actually) fighting between us.
But when there IS a disagreement, we still respect each other, even if we don't see eye to eye. We speak the same volume that I would speak to any other person. We don't feel the need to yell louder than the other to be the winner!
So anyway! On the rare occasion that we have an argument, and we're feeling a little chilled to each other, this is my final piece of advice:
7. A good ice-breaker after an argument is for you to make a nice warm cup of coffee or tea for your beloved, just the way he likes it. Take the drink to him wherever he is sitting, and set it next to him, or hand it to him. He'll be a little surprised, since you both are feeling a bit awkward. Hopefully he thanks you. But even if he doesn't, as you walk away, tell him, "I poisoned it." (yes, I've said this-it really does lighten things up!)(And NO--don't really poison the drink!)